At first it stings but then you realise the narcissist has to move on. Too many of their victims or people who see through them are on to them. They must move for a new supply and thus reinvent themselves as a result. If you don’t fit with their goals… kids included bye bye. And it’s appalling because something that’s so important…. they’ve stressed time and time again……will be cast by the wayside. See further notes at the bottom.
Narcissists Abandon Their Families and Re-Invent Themselves Linda Martinez
Narcissistic men and women cannot sustain authentic relationships in marriages or as parents. They act out, having multiple affairs, mistresses, girlfriends, boyfriends, secretly on the side. They have no shame about their reprehensible, destructive behaviors. If they have power in the world and are venerated publicly as high level executives, part of the entertainment and social elite, they get away with it. These days, living in a narcissistic society, most people shrug about these matters. If someone is “very important” it doesn’t matter what they do in their personal lives and some believe that they are above reproach because of their extraordinary success.
The narcissistic man or woman has a severe personality disorder that is not going to change. There is no motivation to become different since the narcissist believes that he is perfect and every one else falls short. If the narcissist has a loyal professional and social following, a source of constant narcissistic supply, excuses will always be made for him/her despite the abominable behavior toward spouse and children.
After causing horrific trauma to a wife or husband and children who have been abandoned, he moves on to re-invent himself and re-burnish his image. For the narcissist, there are no genuine relationships. One person is replaceable with another—one wife with another, one child or two children with others. Some narcissists go on to produce children with two three or even four other partners. It doesn’t matter as long as he is getting the adulation, praise, adoration that he needs and maintaining the power and money that he holds on to and that defines him/her as a person.
note from me…. trust me this person will abandon ex wife and kids and move just to be happy somewhere else. This person will tell their friends of their plans, and what I don’t understand is how these friends enable. I tell you I’m moving two states away but my kids are so damn important…. hello red flag. How are you gonna visit those kids every other weekend two states away! People need to start thinking instead of enabling.
Also they will reinvent themselves….. however they can’t keep up the facade. Dinner or later it will all come crashing down. Wrapped up in blankets drinking cocoa my ass.